Thursday, February 28, 2013

I went to Skyline for dinner the other night. As I was putting a dot of hot sauce on each oyster cracker I was eating, it reminded me of the numerous trips Danny and I have taken to Skyline.
We would often go to lunch when we worked together at Natorp's in high school and eat way too many cheese coneys. This would cause the afternoon to be a struggle, and result in avoiding heavylifting by all means necessary.
The most memorable trips, however, were in college when we would drive off campus at University of Dayton to get Skyline. We would average going about once a month, and it was always a great time. I learned from Danny the proper way to eat at Skyline:
1. While waiting to order/waiting for food, put a dot of hot sauce on each oyster cracker and eat.
2. When cheese coneys arrive, insert four oyster crackers into the coney, add salt, and add hot sauce.
3. The first bite of the first cheese coney, and the last bite of the last cheese coney are always the two best.
Danny would always be amazed/disgusted/amused at the speed and rate I would eat cheese coneys. Not only would I be finished with 5 cheese coneys by the time he was just starting his second, but I would also eat each one by only taking two bites. Danny's pace of eating would be slowed by his mixed emotions of laughing and shaking his head. Every trip to Skyline guaranteed a great time.
 
Tommy

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

"Hi Kathy,


Just wanted to let you know, you are on my mind often. Sorry I haven’t had an opportunity to stop by...AT ALL! Please know that I love and miss you, as do Charlie and Jack.


Charlie’s birthday is next month and we just mailed out birthday party invitations to her friends. The below text was included in the invitations; completely Charlie’s idea. Love that girl, she has a wonderful soul.


Charlie’s Birthday Wish

In lieu of presents, Charlie would prefer a donation be made to a charity that is very close to her heart, The O’Keefe Family Medical Assistance Fund.

The O’Keefe’s are close family friends and continue to need assistance. Please visit the below website to read their story and make a donation.



Love you!!!"
 
We are so touched! I use to baby sit for Charlie and Jack. They are part of the "family" What a wonderful young lady. Thank you, Charlie. Love  you, Kathy


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Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Danny is in on going therapy. He takes PT to help with core muscles and help him re-learn to walk. He is walking but his gate is uneven. Danny would like to run again. He’s in OT and Rob his therapist is helping him get movement back in his right arm. The improvements are there, just slow. As for speech, we’ve seen a lot of improvement in his reading, writing, and speech. UMAP was a good choice. ...We asked everyone for help to get him there, now we need help to keep him there. Danny’s speech therapy alone is $1000/day. You can donate to any Fifth/Third account or at pay pal account. You can donate directly to the University of Michigan Aphasia Program under Danny’s name. We know we wouldn’t be this far without you! I don’t like to keep asking for help, but I find a mom will do anything to help her child.
We do have a couple of fund raisers coming up. The first one is scheduled for April 13, 2013 at Dave and Busters. Thank you again for all of your support!

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

December 18

On December 18, 2012 from 6pm - 8pm a fundraiser will be held at Willie's Sports Cafe in Western Hills.  For only $10, you get all you can eat and the best part....ALL proceeds go to the O'Keefe Family Medical Assistance Fund to help cover Danny's astronomical medical bills.

See you there!

Also, don't forget about "The Magical Night of Giving" at Tri-County Mall on Sunday, November 18th.  Stop by customer service and buy a wristband for $5 and receive exclusive discounts.  ALL proceeds go to the O'Keefe's.


Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Update about Danny: Amazing progress

Hi. I just got back from a weekend visit with Danny. Danny is really happy there. He’s working hard. We went to dinner and took a couple of walks in the fall leaves. On Saturday, we found a place to get Danny’s hair cut. The guy, Mr. Jackson did a great job, Danny loved it. Afterwards, Danny had his massage to help loosen his muscles. They donated this to Danny! It was a beautiful weekend. I would like to know, why it rains every time I drive there??

Each time I see Danny, I can see small improvements. He has more control when he lifts his right arm and it seems stronger too. It’s a small improvement but it’s an improvement.

Danny hasn’t been able to take his daily walk. He’s busy with his speech, OT, and PT. His day is starting at early. First session is at 9:00 and he’s going until after 6 with his OT and PT. He’s usually very tired at night.

It’s exciting each time I go up to Michigan and see the changes. The changes seem small, but it’s been 18 months since Danny has said a sentence to me. He recited two sentences to me, after his first week there. His reading is slowing improving as well. It’s hard to watch him struggle so. He’s remarkable in his never ending work ethics. He does his homework religiously. He’ll go over and over words till he has them just right. When you talked to Danny, he had a very limited vocabulary. He’d say just a few words and only one at a time. Now his vocabulary has greatly improved and we get a couple or three words at a time. At night Danny and I text and I would get a one word text. This week, I got a three words , “love you mom”. As you can imagine, I got teary.

UMAP has been very good for Danny. His therapists agrees. They would like to see Danny be able to stay at UMAP. As you know, the program is close to $1000/per day. We need your help in keeping him there. Please help us spread Danny’s story. We need everyone’s help in doing this. You all have helped us so much already, THANK YOU!

Ways to help: 1) donate directly to UMAP (earmarked for Danny) and get their tax ID number.
                       2) donate Marriott points
                       3) donate to any Fifth/Third Bank under The O’Keefe Family Assistance Fund.
                       4) donate with paypal on the help the O’Keefe Family blog.
                       5) help us spread the word
                       6) share your ideas!


Thank you for helping us get Danny’s life back.

Love,

Kathy

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

From Danny's Cousin

“Who is your hero” is a question that I have been asked many times. Before, I could never quite grasp the concept of what a hero was. I knew that superheroes were people in comic books who had super powers, but I had never met someone like that. Did heroes truly exist? After seventeen years of searching for the answer, I found it. I found the one man to call my “Superman,” and it is my cousin Danny.

Danny is your typical twenty-seven year old guy who enjoys hanging out with friends and can always be found watching football. He never hesitates to ask me how I am, and I will never forget the time he asked me to dance at our cousin’s wedding. Danny always knew what he wanted for his future, and he worked hard to accomplish that task. On the first try, he passed the BAR exam and began his career as an aspiring defense attorney. Danny was on the right path towards a successful life, until one day one person took everything away.

I can still hear the words, “A brother and sister were found stabbed in their home” blasting through the speakers of the TV on that day in May. I had watched the story unfold on at least three different news stations, and I couldn’t stop searching the internet to find out more. All I knew was that Danny was in brain surgery, and the odds were against him.

It was his sister’s ex-boyfriend who pushed his way inside their house determined to kill. Danny heard his sister’s screams while getting ready for work and ran to her rescue. Because of this, he was stabbed nineteen times in the brain, the tendons in his right arm were severed, and he was kicked so hard that his spleen was lacerated. Now you might make the conclusion that this is the reason why I call Danny my “superman,” but there is more to the story.

One year and five surgeries later, Danny is fighting to get his life back. His days have switched from dealing with law cases to re-learning how to talk, read, and walk. He walks for two hours each day, despite a limp, and works on being able speak more words than “yes”. He has defied all the odds thus far, and I believe that in time he will be able to present his skills as a defense attorney.

Through all of this, Danny has changed my outlook on life. Before, I used to complain about simple tasks, such as going to work, but now I think of what Danny is doing at that moment. I know that he is working hard through the frustration and that gives me motivation. As I reflect back on my time with Danny, I notice that he has always inspired me, but I could never see it. Today, those inspirations are stronger than they have ever been. I believe that if Danny can do it then so can I.

I am fighting with Danny to get his life back by working hard at everything I do. Besides, every hero needs a sidekick, and I am ready to show Danny that I have all of the qualifications.

written by Meghan, Cousin to Danny